Guys & Relationships

I haven't written in awhile, but wow I have so many things going on in my mind right now. I've been thinking a lot about relationships. Ever since last Friday Abby sent me a deveotional titled Even a Great Husband Makes a Very Poor God. A few years ago when I thought I was in a relationship for the long haul, I did not believe this. I kept looking to my boyfriend to mend my brokeness and kept waiting for him to make me happy. The thing is, no guy will ever make you happy if you are not content with yourself.

Even deeper..... well, just read this::

To expect another person to make you feel happy, secure, and fulfilled will leave you disappointed at best and disillusioned at worst. Even a great husband makes a very poor God. Only God can settle those deep heart-needs. A man can never do this. If a husband could meet every need his wife had, we'd have no need for God. Therefore, instead of just focusing on finding the right partner, let God work on your heart to help you become the right partner. The time to start working on becoming a wife is now. Before the white dress, delicate bouquets, unity candle, bacon wrapped shrimp, and reception punch, there is some heart stuff to consider: Getting married doesn't instantly make you selfless... it makes you realize how very selfish you can be at times. Getting married doesn't make you feel loved... it makes you realize love is more of a decision you make than a feeling you feel. Getting married doesn't take away loneliness... it makes you realize true companionship comes not when you demand it but rather when you give it to another person.

God has definetly given me the conviction that he is still preparing my heart and my mind for a future relationship. When he knows that I am ready, is when this relationship will be a part of my life. Now I stumbled across this post today http://blackglasses.wordpress.com/2008/11/18/dating-201/ and he sure tells it like it should be... if only every guy in Charlotte would read this or better yet listen to the Visionary Love, Dream Sex series from Elevation, us single girls would be in a lot better place! Yet God won't leave us in a state of loneliness, it is all part of his amazing plan.